Haiti needs more than 90999

I feel terrible for the people of Haiti. I can’t even imagine what the people there must be feeling or going through. It’s really not fair that nature strikes hardest in some of the poorest nations in the world that do not have the infrastructure or resources to help their people manage and cope. Im pleased to see the world coming together to provide aid and relief for the Haitians, albeit the US government has been slow to follow through on the delivery and administration of supplies. Its times like this where you feel helpless to do as much as you can for something that seems such an atrociously large and violent mess. I mean, where do you begin?

I was thinking about ways I could help beyond texting 90999 to donate to Red Cross. If I could I would put together sponsors from various food companies and send trucks down there with masses of branded food products for distribution, shoot a documentary to create advertising for the companies and feed the hungry simulataneously. Apparently this is not possible because of rules and regulations about government aid. I think this bites. To think that beaurocracy gets in the way during a crisis is just heartbreaking. I personally don’t have the money to compete with Red Cross, UNICEF or Wyclef Cef but I would like to help and yet the fact that I wouldn’t be able to in the way I think would be the best way I can physically help really annoys me. But putting my need to be involved in a key role in a mission to save the world aside, there must be something else people like me can do?!

What can a person do that does not have a lot of financial resources or worldwide fan club for a poor and terrified nation of Haiti aside from pray? Who’s responsibility really is it to ensure that something will be done effectively? What about the people who are useful but don’t know HOW to help beyond donating $10 to a hotline?

Its easy to complain about how the rich of this nation should be forking out their money first. Its easy to speak in hypotheticals such as; “If I was worth a 200 million dollar empire I would certainly not miss 1 million” and give the responsibility to the rich to provide for the poor. But the world does not work this way. The problem is that just because you have it doesn’t make you the kind of person to spend it. A lot of people who are in a position of power and financial abundance do not feel they are obligated with the responsibility to use it to save the world.

Dont get me wrong. Celebrities are on board the aid train; donating their face and concerts to bring relief in dollars for NFP organizations. I think there ARE people in a position of power and abundance that are using their affluence to help. However, though aid is a really important, fundamental concern right now, I also believe we are forgetting the need for service people to rebuild and develop an infrastructure down there to shelter the people and bring them clean water, electricity and comfort.

Could there be an agency in the USA that enlists people to volunteer their time to go down to Haiti for a few months and receive a tax break to physically commit to this? Google has the money; it could get on board. It has a search engine that spans across the globe! There are a lot of people in the States and abroad out of a job right now. Surely on a national level the government could pool together funding from an airline and create a NFP organization that hosts volunteer engineers, construction people and laborers plus psychologists, doctors and nurses, caretakers? This would be something that has not been done before. It would create a bridge from our individualist society towards a collectivist one. I think it would represent a transformational America. One thats not every man for himself but every man for his people and planet.

Working and such

Because Im so inspired to write due to a combo of torrential rain and a shiny new macbook I would like to post a SECOND entry today.

Why do people need to define themselves by their jobs? Its so silly. I wonder how relaxed people would feel if they knew they could be and do many things because NONE of those things were their identities?

I have been a model for 13 years. But I don't consider myself a model. When I was younger I wanted to be a journalist but I took five ballet classes a week and made cakes. I studied media but I went to rave parties and I worked in a clothing boutique. Then I studied Advertising and worked as a cocktail waitress in a casino followed by music manager.

I meet so many people who ask me "what do you do?" and I don't know how to answer the question because it takes so long to explain that I do many things for work plus include that what I do outside my work is also important to who I am. I feel like being asked this question I have to explain my identity with the brevity of an elevator pitch.

I was talking to a friend who was conflicted about choosing a vocational goal or a career opportunity. Said he couldn't do one because it would affect the time available for the other. My take on his predicament was that he was the one in control of how one could affect the other so it was quite possible if he changed his own expectations of choosing either or that he could very well pursue both simultaneously.

There is one thing I didn't think of though. Sometimes in life you have to sacrifice one thing for another because time doesn't allow you the liberty to do two things at once. What do you do when you come across this kind of scenario - where two things compete for your time and attention? Two things you care equally about continuing to enjoy. Maybe more than two things?

How do you prioritize your time is the discussion topic.

How do I prioritize? Well I used to be a hedonist. I would choose what brings ME the most pleasure. If I had to work I would only work if the pleasure of the pay off was great. I had the luxury of circumstances that reinforced this attitude and it worked for me. I thought balance meant time divided between work that paid for a lavish lifestyle.

Since going broke a few years ago when the work input was not as great as the lifestyle output I have started to rethink my priorities and figure out a better strategy. Though I think its important to enjoy your lifestyle I now see the necessity in working a job to afford it. I don't think we are created to sit around and wait for money to float in nor do I think that a life lived to store up treasures that aren't enjoyed is

But what do you do if your job doesn't afford you the time to enjoy your life? Several friends of mine have been finding their career choices limit their lifestyle significantly. I want to tell them to quit their jobs but then that is just what I would do because I personally value my personal free time higher than earning a higher salary. In essence I am happy to do just as much work as to afford the lifestyle that is suitable for my wellbeing.

So is free will really the question here? How much do you value your free will to pick and choose the ratio between your lifestyle and your work?

Does it matter what you do for a job and how much time you compromise to have success at it?

I personally do care if the bread comes home because I like making toast with it because it allows me the ability to help others. If I don't bring bread home I am no use to myself or anyone else. I think the balance gets outta whack when Im only working to serve myself and cannot afford the time to disperse the benefits to my relationships and community. My personal opinion is who cares how much bread you have if you can't share the toast with someone it affords.

How to do better according to a Zen master

I love Virgin Airlines. Richard Branson has made flying for me a treat. Not only has he created an airline that looks modern and feels fresh but it delivers a congruent message from start to finish. You fly fresh and get more than what you pay for. Here is why:

When I fly Virgin I get more than just great movies and additional leg room. I get friendly staff, unlimited booze, the seat I like and (best of all) I always get put next to interesting people that tell me the craziest stories. I leave the plane smiling, relaxed and full of wisdom. Virgin has got me hooked on flying with them because of their customers!

There is nothing better than the concept of seat allocation to illustrate the synchronicity of life. Believe me from 13 years of flying that there is no such thing as random coincidence when it comes to the person you get a seat next to on a plane.

There is something special about flying solo and sharing a flight journey with an unknown random. You're ever so slightly risking your life to travel with someone you may not ever see again. Its vulnerable when you think about it, to sign up to get in a flimsy box that man created years ago with a propellor that now uses jet power to go up in 20,000ft in the air and transport you to a destination sometimes unreachable by car. You and the person you sit next to both silently agree to a certain level of trust during vulnerable conditions the moment you arrive at your seat. You know that this person may be someone you might have to share an air mask with and they hope you feel the same way.

I sat next to a Zen master on the way to Los Angeles. Yes. A Zen master who was fascinated by integrating martial arts principals into the daily grind. He told me all sorts of interesting things about the exercises he learned and their useful application. I asked him a question that led to a conversation about achieving goals. I want to share a little about his thoughts...

There is this philosophy in life that if you want something you have to go after it. There is the opposite belief that you should let things go when you want them to come back to you. I have always been interested in finding out which principle is more effective. I have also wanted to know what to do when you cannot get something right that is something you want badly. This could be a mental, relational or physical task. My question for the Zen master was how do you teach yourself to do better at "life" with practice?

The man on the plane illustrated how he learns to do his exercises to answer my question.

He began with the very basics of the importance of focus in getting simple things right. His theory was that you learn to master something at the base level and build confidence from that point forth. You cannot skip the basics. I am someone that likes to skip basics such as reading the fine print in manuals before I use digital equipment. That is why I do not know how to use my TV remote control to its fullest capacity.

Mister Zen then told me about star throwing. Since I would like to play a ninja in a movie one day I listened closely to his story. He told me that when you throw a star at a target you begin by throwing it at a very close proximity so that you get a higher ratio of hits and not misses. Only when your hits are perfected at that distance you take a step back. Then you repeat. If you notice you are missing more than hitting you have to return to a closer distance. The aim is to get good at further distances through repetition. He said to me that the most important thing to achieve during this whole process is to get confidence in your skill through hits and to choose distances that minimize misses. He thinks the psychology of hitting more than missing makes you think yourself into getting better. He illustrated how powerful his practice was in transforming his life in many areas from the affirmation he received from mastery in martial arts.

I know if I want to be a ninja I would need to be completely deserved of it both psychologically and physically. I imagine that even if God gave me "natural ability" I could only feign a ninja for so long before a seasoned opponent would pull out a move that I hadn't experience mastering and I would be revealed as a "poser" plus be beat.

Its my belief that there are no flukes in life that last and having the luck doesn't make you a master. I think a person wears their mastery on the outside because it comes from the inside. Sure God gives us gifts but he also seasons us with experience where we get to test them. Like there is a difference between a person who stands tall in a job interview because he knows he has earned the position. Just like a person who has lots of smiling lines on their face in old age - you know they let a lot into their hearts in their lifetime that made them laugh. I like these people especially.

Mastering the simplest effort in small things can make others seem possible too. I think when we master the little things we learn to become confident in our ability and this then bleeds into other areas of our lives. We have seen and now know with a little effort we can indeed make anything happen. Im starting study at some point this year to go back to learning basics and its going to be a freaking challenge but I think the discipline just might pay off in more than one area. I will complain but I wont relent.

"The closest distance between two points is always the longest way around"

Thank you V Australia aka Virgin Airlines. Richard Branson you rock my world.

The left and right

Ive always been right eye dominant. I used to self administer eye exercises they teach you at the optometrist.  My brother got reading glasses in Grade 3 and the exercises and glasses looked so cool I wanted eye problems too. In fact wanted a pair of glasses so badly I was convinced it was only a matter of time before I became poor of sight and got them. I made my parents take me to the eye doctor to get tested. The Santa looking doctor told me I would not be getting glasses for Christmas this year but that one day when "I was old" my slightly weaker left eye may need them for reading only. This was debilitating information for me at the time because my eye sight WAS out of balance but I wasn't able to do anything about it until it got worse and I wasn't sure I would want to be an old person with spectacles. I think I have been slightly haunted by a hyper-awareness of my eyesight imbalance since. Im convinced it gets worse each year that passes.  

As an adult Im finding that balance is essential for happy living but the ebb and flow of life sometimes throws us out of whack in that department. Im interested in learning about ways to know when that is happening and keep on a pretty straight track. Kinesiology is something I have become more and more fascinated by lately because it is helping achieve this goal. 

I found myself talking to a good friend of mine who is studying to be an osteopath about kinesiology. He was explaining to me the utility in studying and diagnosing physical symptoms in the body to simultaneously heal the emotional and spiritual. I do believe that the way we physically function and hold ourselves mirrors the way we are treating ourselves internally and mentally. I think 70 per cent of visual cues we present is in body language and have always been able to discern from body language when someone is going through a significant transition in life. Balancing our mind, body and soul may sound new age arty-fartsy but is undeniably essential for a healthy, happy long life. 

Did you know that according to Eastern medicine the body is divided into two halves; the masculine side (right) and feminine side (left)? The theory is that each human being is governed by a left hemisphere and right hemisphere in their brain that controls the left and right side of their body. The left side is in charge of the right side of their body and the right side is in charge of the left side. Most people are right or left side dominant (as with their eyes) The goal is to balance the use of the two hemispheres to achieve a synergetic functionality of the whole body. 

Where we as humans fall out of balance we experience symptoms in the respective male and female areas. I did my research online and found an article following this discussion that "The male side is usually connected to our rationality, logic, linear thinking and understanding. The female side is connected to feelings, nurturing, caring compassion, love and all the emotional qualities"

The male side is usually connected to our rationality, logic, linear thinking, and understanding. The female side is connected to feelings, nurturing, caring, compassion, love, and all the emotional qualities

Does this mean that because I have a weaker left eye that I need to work on seeing emotional side of things clearer? Interesting point to ponder...

What's even more interesting is that I found out through my friend that there is a theory that when we experience an inbalance in an area, the outside manifestation can be represented in problems such as injuries to one side of the body and be correlated to emotional issues in life. A person who injures their right elbow may be having an issue with men in their life. A person with left nasal or throat blockages and swelling may be having issues with speaking up about anxieties and dealing with women. 

Practising yoga and seeking kinesiologic treatment to balance the right and left seems to be just one way to strengthen our non dominant sides. Forms of reiki, meditation and breathing work are some others. 

I personally think forms of acting, dance and creative expression could be very helpful. I think that the psychology technique of using regressive therapy is extremely powerful when used in therapy sessions to help a patient explore past emotional maladies in present time. I wonder if different forms of creative therapy could be just as useful in the context of balancing the feminine and masculine energies. 

I used to study acting and my teacher would give me roles for class that connect to parts of my personality that I wasn't completely comfortable with expressing in public. I would find myself resisting the role but then experiencing a certain level of conscious growth after completing the dramatic exercise. I think what Im suggesting is something similar; the therapist would administer a creative task such as a role play or movement to encourage people to physically express themselves in the non dominant area. Wouldn't that be both cathartic and energetically healing? 

Im interested in investigating what other ways there may be to administer the kinds of techniques one may use to get in tune physically and achieve balance. And I also bet there's a way of administering eye exercises to strengthen eyes so that glasses are not needed in the future. 

Smoking is not more fun than me

I have quit smoking. I said I wanted to quit a while back but I didnt really mean it. Then I really wanted to quit and now I have. 

The reason I know that I have really quit is that I haven't told anyone. I have realized alone and accepted that smoking is not only bad for my health, it really doesn't suit me. I don't know why I have been ingesting something as disgusting as a cigarette all these years. It doesn't taste nice, it ages my organs and it makes me smell bad. My mother had breast cancer a few years ago and cannot stand the fact that I would deliberately increase my odds of contracting a disease similar and risk having to have the same chemotherapy treatment that she had.  

Sometimes personal rationale defies all logic and reason. I have a two ideas why I did smoke though which I will sheepishly admit; I smoke because it alleviates nervous tension and because its "cool" to smoke aka it makes me look like a "bad girl". I like the title of bad girl because it suggests I am elusive and dangerous which is synonymous with fun. This leads me to the conclusion that I am an insecure wreck in social situations which makes me need to smoke to project the opposite social caption. 

Did you ever do something inauthentic because you cared more about what other people thought than how much you valued yourself? I think smoking is on par with this. Why would a person lovingly ingest chemicals that are proven to kill you slowly unless they are happy to accept that their health is not as valuable to them? 

Now that I have cracked the code to my smoking habit I am pretty certain this issue needs to be addressed. And its probably going to be hard to change a bad habit when there's been no hard lesson to motivate a reason to let it go. There are a lot of things that I think are "bad habits" that bring temporal gratification but not lasting overall benefit. I guess the true key to breaking bad habits is thinking about the larger picture; where they fit into the overall. 

 

I am going to attempt to adopt a "smoking is not more fun than me" policy this year. Its pretty shameful that I would think that changing an external symbol would shape my personality. I know that you can divert others away from who you are with external cues from personal experience as a model and actress. I also know that regardless of how successful you are with this tactic, you cannot change who you are on the inside by focusing on the outside. If I'm insecure about looking boring and feel a pressure from peers to be "cool" its because there are no facts that exist to suggest otherwise. 

I have a fun list. I wrote it in an earlier blog. Every time I want a cigarette Im going to take action to knock off one of the checks on the list. The satisfaction from that will be much better in the long run than the gratification of a 5 minute cigarette can ever do for me.  

Nightingale - convicted by conscience

Im fascinated by this lovely lady, Florence Nightingale. The woman who pioneered the role of the female nurse. Led by a Christian calling to leave behind her aristocratic upbringing and serve sick people in need of medical aid, she was a woman who dubbed herself as a "man of action". She dedicated her life for others because she truly believed she must as a "soldier" of the Lord. 

This woman is inspiring. The way she selflessly used her gift of empathy to treat the weak and needy. The way she remained celibate during her entire life. Florence Nightingale lived a life of solely serving others who needed her help. Her entire pleasure and joy of existence deriving from a healthy spiritual conscience.  

Now here is my question. She said he was "called by the Lord" to pursue this life of service. She was raised in a quasi-comfortable environment where others served her. She had no worldly reason to dedicate a moment to a selfless cause. She lived in an area that was not surrounded by cues to direct her thoughts to those in need. Was she really chosen by God to live this life or did she herself choose it? Was she escaping the expectations of her family by choosing to serve none other than the intangible?

I have been a believer for quite some time. Yet I would not say that I am good at it all the time. Meaning Im good at the believing part but pretty sloppy at getting the application right. I believe my strength in faith is motivated by my conscience, that God and Jesus exist and I think the bible is a handbook of truth. However,  I do not know my "calling" despite the fact I pray daily. If I did Im convinced I would be better at applying myself to the task. Though I do become convicted of actions due to what I perceive to be Gods desire for me, when I hear Christians say "God told me so" or "God spoke to me" I err on the side of cynical. How do you know for certain of a conviction? 

I went to see the movie Avatar the other evening. The story showed the battle between two opposing cultures with different values. The hero has to choose which reality he feels is he belongs. I wonder if we ever ask ourselves this question why do we believe? Do we believe in things because we stumble into them or because we are told so?  Do we ever ask ourselves whether we have sought to define our values for ourselves through life experience? I think Florence Nightingale did just that. She aligned her personal will power to convict herself of a very difficult choice to abandon her traditional value system because it didn't serve her spiritual conscience. She birthed herself a new identity in the end. I think she is the definition of one following a true "calling" by living to serve her God and the people in the world that needed one. 

I believe that a life lived with a graceful conscience is the recipe for true freedom. 

Less than a thousand words

Its hard to look at a picture. The faces aren't the same anymore. A picture of light spent and passed on into paper. Who was I in that moment? What happened before and did I think was going to happen after? Was I happy? 

There are moments in time you will always remember. These add to a file that I store in the back of my head and can quickly recall by simply covering my eyes. My instant projector comes handy when I hear a name of a person I once knew or a place I visited. In a heartbeat the distant becomes close and my nose filled with intoxicating smells. A soundtrack plays on - sometimes the quiet of deep breath is all that I need to hear. Im there.

Not every photograph I have ever taken makes it into my rotation. And there are a few that look differently to the way I remember them with each year that passes. I find myself looking through the file I keep someplace - in between the file for de ja vu and dreams. My mind clearly remembers the ones that capture flushed cheeks and laughing till my throat tickles. Where are the ones I see spoiled with red eyes and parted glances? Who are these pretty strangers? 

I think you can tell the ending to a great story with just one picture. Thats the impression I get. 

My 101 of 1001 days from 2010 - 2013

Here is a list of the top 101 things I would do, if I could do over the next three years in no order of preference

The 101 List for 1001 days

1. Love
2. See Iguazu waterfall in Argentina
3. Go to Japan
4. Finish and publish a novel
5. Paint my bedroom walls
6. Grow my hair waist length
7. Own a scooter
8. Keep a plant alive
9. Take singing classes
10. Learn a martial art
11. Run a marathon
12. Live in Montreal
13. Get from poor to pretty good at snowboarding
14. Get from above average to excellent at surfing
15. Ride around Europe on a scooter
16. Eat spaghetti a la matriciana in Italy
17. Learn to paint
18. Ski in the alps
19. See the sunrise in Antartica
20. Play piano
21. See a Panda bear
22. Learn to play guitar
23. Flip a house
24. Master riding a horse
25. Plant a vegetable garden
26. Learn to hip hop dance
27. Read every penguin classic
28. Learn to shoot a gun
29. Go on a mission trip
30. Go to The Rose Bowl Market in Pasadena
31. Produce a documentary for a film festival
32. Go up in a hot air balloon
33. Ride on a camel through the Sahara desert
34. Bungee jumping in Queenstown - The Nebis
35. Skiing in Whistler
36. Camping in Yellowstone
37. See the Grand Canyon
38. Learn to cook traditional Morroccan food
39. Pyramids in Egypt
40. Dye my hair pink
41. Try a raw food diet
42. Shoot under 100 on an 18 holer
43. Like bowling
44. Learn art history
45. Operate a camera manually
46. Live by the beach
47. Live in the snow in a log cabin
48. Get married
49. Throw an egg at someones head
50. Visit Ben and Jerrys icecream factory
51. Wineries in the South of France
52. Get a dog
53. Hot springs
54. Go paintballing
55. Get a loomi loomi massage
56. Learn to do cartoon voices
57. Go on a safari
58. Learn to cook my mother's Nasi goreng
59. Cook a pandan chiffon cake
60. Play a lead in a blockbuster action movie
61. Go to a Drive In
62. Eat at all of David Thompson's restaurants
63. Make a personal website
64. Learn Spanish
65. Learn Chinese
66. See my cousins Peter and Matt
67. Meet Madonna
68. Pray
69. 30 day challenge for bikram yoga
70. Write a screenplay
71. Host a travel show for Travel Channel
72. Develop "The Starving Artist LA" blog
73. Blog here once a week
74. Teach kids to read
75. Pick berries one summer in New Zealand
76. Pick apples if I cant pick berries in an apple orchard
77. Swim with a Great White Shark
78. Go indoor rock climbing
79. Find a female mentor
80. Interrogate my Malaysian grandma about my mum in chinese
81. Take family portraits
82. Learn about my family tree
83. Keep a dream journal
84. Sew the ribbons in my unworn shoes and take a ballet class with real classical piano music
85. Spend time with my younger cousins Tamara and Caity
86. Make a coffee table scrapbook of my travel photography
87. Get a clear white tattoo of the Care Bear heart on my ass
88. Change my signature to something novel
89. Go on a dinner date at Moonshadows in Malibu
90. Learn to make voices for cartoons
91. Test my Noni Juice theory
92. Start or be involved in developing an NFP
93. Go to this amazing Day Spa in Palm Springs
94. Go wine tasting in Napa Valley, CA
95. Go wine tasting in Margaret River, WA
96. Enter the annual Raft Race in the Amazon River
97. Write or receive a poem
98. Watch a ballet
99. See a pro ice hockey game
100. New Years Eve in New York City
101. New Years Eve in Byron Bay, Australia